"We marry the same mistakes over and over again, but they have a different face. They are the same people, the same problems. We have to stop marrying mistakes," says Lisa J. Peck co-author of STOP MARRYING MISTAKES. The problem is that many people are embarrassed and humiliated to admit they are in an abusive relationship or a bad marriage. They plunge into the same pitfalls with every relationship. The following proactive steps can help you become involved in a positive relationship and take control of your life: **Recognize Red Flags** Avoid someone who is self-absorbed. Be aware of someone who tries to keep you alone, isolating you from others. **Learn Abusive Techniques** Learn to recognize abusive tendencies. Take a surviving abuse class highlighting abusive tendencies. **Understand Yourself** Be honest with yourself and others. Face your fears. **Allow the Other Person to Grow** See the worth in yourself and the other person. Allow personal growth. *** Kevin Decker, host of Inside Romance Success, interviewed Lisa J. Peck and you can hear the entire interview for free by going to: http://insidesuccessradio.com/Guests/Lisa-Peck